Forgiveness is the path out of polarization

 There can be a big difference between validation and agreement.

A wise person doesn't believe everything they think.

It is a fool's errand to attempt to change what another person believes unless they ask for help. People usually only change their beliefs if circumstances require it for a more desirable outcome.

As they say in AA, "Don't be taking other people's inventory. Focus on your own."

As one grows in spiritual maturity, one realizes that trying to change another person's beliefs is a form of judgment and attack. As changing minds is a form of judgment and attack, the wise person gives up the effort. As the Buddhist's say, "It is what it is." No amount of talking or communication is going to change the person's perceptions, projections, and beliefs unless and until they are open to it.

The spiritual practice which allows a person to stop arguing and defending or advocating for what they think is the truth is called "forgiveness." Forgiveness is being willing to give up making other people and circumstances responsible for your unhappiness. As it says in A Course In Miracles, "Would you rather be right or be happy?"